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Family Obligation
« on: June 26, 2018, 05:42:55 AM »
My sister-in-law arrived last evening, and is almost unable to walk. She using a cane as a right leg. They took her off all her meds for pain relief, and she is barely able to walk. Her hip has collapsed. She is in a bad shape so we are obligated to help her.

I waited up to carry her bags in so sweetie would not be forced to do it. In this case, one can say this is truly a labor of love. She has been divorced for 30 years, 74, and gone through life never preparing for her station she has arrived at in life. Has two children and a grown granddaughter, and none of them will take care of her so my wife, being the youngest of 9 children, feels obligated to step up and see her sister through this time in her life. She is really in a sad situation so we will help her as best as we can.

Is there such a thing as "relative in law obligation?" I believe so, but it might be a little painful at times. You know what I mean? My sweetie says I am the man for the job! That really helps, her confidence in me.....I/we WANT too, and should. Hope someone does it for me some day when I will be in need.

My wife took care of both her parents until they went to the next realm. We moved our family form KY to TN, many years ago, for her to accomplish this. It was the best thing I could have done. It was hard on her, but she feels great joy knowing she brought much comfort, to both her parents, in their last days. Her dad actually passed in our home. We built a mother's-in-law quarters in our home, then converted to my man cave after we did not need it any longer.

I guess that is why swettie chose a "later in life" career as an RN. After mommy-hood (4 daughters) she went back to college and became an RN and worked for 25 years then retired. Retirement check is nice, and also nice to have one's very own nurse. Has great benefits guys...

The Lord tells us to take care of our own. That is what she/we are doing! "That Book" tells one, "It brings great reward, Steve.

We are in deed privileged to have an opportunity to do something good! Just like letting the lady use your back yard, Steve. It is an honor to do these kind of things for the less fortunate.

Sister in law's hip replacement surgery is set for July 2nd. She has several Dr visits and other things to do in preparation for this date come next Monday. She is very hearing impaired so my sweetie must accompany her, to these visits, and be her health care advocate.


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Re: Family Obligation
« Reply #1 on: June 26, 2018, 08:01:19 AM »
Upward and Onward Through The Fog . . . . . .
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Re: Family Obligation
« Reply #2 on: June 26, 2018, 09:24:58 AM »
Pop Pop, carry on.
The "obligation" you speak of does, in fact, exist but only in the minds and hearts of God's own people.

All religion and vocalization aside, it's those who actually LIVE the life, that WALK the walk that actually carry the torch, carry the love of God to others.
Those who sit in pews and cast their dollars into the offering plates, and nothing else, only dwell on the surface of life.
It's those who give of themselves and their time, and their energies to other people in need that fulfill the ultimate goal.

Keep on keeping on.
There will be Peace in the Valley, some day.

That is all.

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Re: Family Obligation
« Reply #3 on: June 26, 2018, 12:59:41 PM »
I have to agree with OR53: The "obligation" is only that of one caring human being for another. If you love humanity, than you take care of the needs of others as best you can.

There is no legal obligation to care for anyone, except your children until they reach adulthood (or perhaps forever, if they are disastrously impaired).
Your only obligation to anyone else comes entirely from your own compassion, something with which you are obviously very well endowed.

You're a good man, Roger, and your wife is a very good sister.
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